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Don’t Let Other People Kill Your Dreams

Oh No You Don’t!  Don’t let the dream killer anywhere near your vicinity!  If you see the dream killer, run the other way as fast as you can!

One of the hardest parts about being an entrepreneur is dealing with people who try to undermine what you are doing.  Many of these people come in the form of friends and family.  I don’t think it happens with malicious intent but rather a feeling that they are trying to protect you.  I think there is a hidden agenda below that intention that is more unconscious but they are not aware that is what is driving them.

When we are children we have no problem dreaming.  We are going to be world-famous artists, musicians, dancer or maybe even astronauts and no one can stop us.  Children dream in detail and they can see them selves living their dreams.   Somewhere alone the way we stop dreaming.  It is a flaw of our society not  to encourage and support dreaming. The dream train derails, we put those desires on the shelf for “someday” and forget about them.

The problem is we never get back to them and they need energy and attention to come alive.  The law of attraction states that which you focus on will grow, so instead of focusing on our juicy, fertile dreams we focus on that J.O.B that is someday going to allow us to get back to our dreams.  Guess what, the J.O.B doesn’t go away because we are putting all of our energy into it and it never gets us to the place where we can live the life of our dreams because we are trading time for money and the money we receive is limited by what we get paid per hour.

Entrepreneurship is the best way to live your dreams and build a future that is financially secure, especially if you are involved in a residual income business.  Residual income can come from publishing a book, investing in a franchise, investing in real estate or joining a network marketing business.

I get residual income from a game I produced years ago and I am also in a network marketing business.  Network marketing naturally encourages dreaming because it is a way to get that new car, new home, get out of debit and work your own hours.  I have seen so many people join the business with lots of passion cause their dreams get reactivated and within days the passion is gone.  They went home and told their spouse or best friend and what they heard was something like this:  ” You are kidding, those things don’t work!”, “Oh, no, you joined one of those pyramid schemes”, “No one makes money in those things”, and “I have seen people lose money in those things.”

People don’t want to look foolish in front of friends or family so quit. They put their dream back on the shelf and look for a “real job”.    Once the dream is smashed it is hard to get back.  I had a distributor join my business and within the first 18 days she brought on 30 people.  Half of them were distributors and half were customers.   She was magnetic and there was no stopping her, until one of her distributors had a conversation with someone in another company, who they both knew.  This person said ” I tried that wrap and it doesn’t work.  I can’t believe you joined that company!” The distributor that was told this felt stupid and began to doubt her self and she share the conversation with   my new distributor who was on fire and her business tanked immediately. Even though she loved the product, knew it worked, it was a perfect fit for her other ventures and she was making money.   She was never able to turn it around from the comment.  She got infected by the dream killer and that was the end of her dreams.

When I first joined the business my closest friend told me early on that she didn’t want to hear anything about my business, nothing!  She wanted to leave a big part of my life out of the conversation.  In reality, when you start your own business, you want the support of your closest friends.  Not only that but how can you have a conversation with your closest friend and not talk about the thing that is taking up a great deal of your life.  The conversation would be something like ” how are you doing?”  “Fine”,  “What have you been doing lately?”, “Not much”,  “Okay, talked to you later”.  The reality is, when I wanted to get support for something that was going on in my business,  it wasn’t allowed in the conversation.

It is predictable that relationship came to an end.  The conversation that ended it happened when I was having issues with a distributor and I wanted support from that friend.  I could feel that she wasn’t listening, as I talked about the issue, and she wanted to get off the phone.  When I told her I felt she wasn’t present in the conversation she got angry and ended the relationship saying I was projecting my stuff onto her.  I think it might have been the other way around.

I tell this story because we need to surround ourselves with people who support us and cheer us on, not people who try to kill our dreams.  People who will gently hold our dreams and encourage us to reach them and as we do the same for them.  We also have to believe so much in our own dreams that we won’t let anyone get in the way!  We plug our ears and say “la la la la la”, when someone tries to interfere.

“When dreaming, choose your own dreams.  Don’t let someone else force a dream on you that you don’t really want.”  Kim Kiyosaki

Here are some ways to protect your dreams and avoid the Dream Killers.

  1. Surround yourself with dreamers.  People who are living their dreams and supporting you to find and follow your own.
  2. Use discernment about who you can and cannot share your dreams with.  Don’t talk about your business with people who might try to discourage you.
  3. Be your own cheerleader!  Listen to your intuition and own inner promptings first and foremost.
  4. Work on yourself. Change the thoughts and behaviors that get in your way.
  5. Don’t give up for any reason!
  6. Make a dream board with visual representations of your dreams so that you can be reminded all the time what they are.
  7. When someone tries to discourage you question their motives first and avoid feeling silly or foolish for what you believe to be true for yourself.

I love Kim Kiyosaki’s advice and I would add to it, don’t sign up to build someone else’s dream, working 9 to 5 for less than you deserve. Very few people create financial freedom working for someone else.  Find a Network Marketing company with something that you can be passionate about and start creating your own economy.

So let’s go into that closet, pull out that box of dreams and start dreaming again.

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How Life Can Change In a Short Period of Time.


It struck me yesterday by how far I have come in a short 2 years. In March 2009 I lost my job of almost 8 years, as an In-Home Family Therapist because the division was cut due to the economy. I applied for and qualified for unemployment benefits.   Fortunately I was able to find a job as a therapist in a clinic but it required me to build up a client base and that didn’t happen as fast as I would have liked it to. I was paid according to the number of clients I saw each week. If I didn’t have clients I didn’t get paid.   The first month I saw about 14 clients total and it went up a little the following month, which meant I hadn’t even replaced half of the income I lost with my previous job.

Unemployment wouldn’t give me benefits because I had a job, even though my income was less than half of what it was, so the only other income came from my It Works business.  At that time I only had small team of people and was making $380 a month with It Works.  Consequently I got behind on all of my credit cards and was always at least a month behind on my mortgage.  It was stressful but I worked part-time at my therapy job and more than part-time with It Works with the first goal being to get caught up on all of my bills.

By January of 2010 I had a full client load at the clinic and about 400 team members on my It Works team and I had added $1000 to my commissions check. That was the month I promoted to Diamond level in the company.   I was able to implement my goal of paying off all my debt and made payment arrangements with everyone.  Making payment arrangements is not an easy process because you have to internally get right with yourself and stay neutral.  Everyone gets into financial trouble sometime in their lives and it is nothing to be ashamed of, even though the process you go through can feel shaming.  With out my home based business it wouldn’t have been possible for me to catch up because I wasn’t making enough as a therapist to do that.

In May of this year I was promoted to Double Diamond with It Works and had grown a team of almost 2000 people.  I was now making an average of $5000 a month with It Works and didn’t need to have a job.  I made a decision to retire from my 25 year career as a therapist, continue to grow my It Works business and do all the other things I had only dreamed of doing before. That is a huge change from where I was in Mar 2009!

The great thing about having your own business is you do it when you want to, put in as much effort as you want and you time is yours.  The other benefit is there is no glass ceiling and your income can continue to grow with a bit of effort from you.  My income has just begun to grow and there isn’t a limit.  I can make $100,000 if I want to.

If you have a dream…keep following it because you will make it happen.

I think the key to success is believing in yourself and in your dreams,  being persistent, focusing and having clear intention and taking action.  It is true that other people have promoted to higher levels in It Works, faster than I did and are making more money.   My persistence has let me accomplish things that a lot of people give up on. I knew the moment I joined It Works that is was a fabulous opportunity for me and a chance to live my dream life.  We have our dreams for a reason and we are here to achieve them in this lifetime.

If you have a dream, do what you love, with passion and keep following it because you will make it happen.   What ever you do, DON’T give up!  Do let what you see around you discourage you.  The dream-seed is planted and all you have to do is nurture it and it will grow.

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